My friends and I have known each other for years. Through out the years our bonds have taught me what a real friendship should be like. This has allowed me to be able to pick and choose my friends wisely and I have created more lasting friendships. Whether you want to admit it or not, everyone needs at least one person they can relate to, vent to, and have fun with. So, if that’s what you’re looking for, keep reading.
What Do You Have in Common?
You and your friend have to have multiple things in common. Find out if you like the same things. Ask questions like, “what kind of music do you like?”or “where do you like to shop?” The more you find you have in common, the more you will be drawn to one another.
Be a Good Listener
A good friend has to be a good listener. Your friend is someone you’ll probably want to go to if you have a problem or need advice. You have to make it known that if the other person ever needs you, you’ll be there and it has to be the same the other way around. This is extremely important. This is how you’ll start building trust. My two best friends know that I’ll always be there to listen when they need it, and they always do the same for me. It’s a key factor.
It’s a No Judgement Zone
Long lasting friendships require zero judgment. Think of it like this. When you have this crazy secret and you need to get it off of your chest, your best friend is someone you should feel comfortable enough to go to. This goes hand in hand with being a good listener. Your friend should be able to listen to you and take what you’re saying without creating negative thoughts about you. A good friend is going to make you feel so comfortable that you’ll go to them for anything.
Here’s a Shoulder You Can Lean On
A true friend will be there for you through those ups, but most importantly through those downs. This is the ultimate test. A good friend won’t be okay with anyone messing with you, or breaking your heart. Going through a breakup? Your friend should definitely be there for comfort and to lift your spirit.
Where’s the Effort?
Effort is extremely important. One person can’t do all of the work. Call and see how your friend is doing or make plans to hang out. Stop waiting around for that call. If your friend is on your mind don’t hesitate to reach out to them. This goes both ways.
Long lasting friendships consist of people who are reliable. If you find yourself dodging their calls or canceling plans last minute all the time, you might want to sit back and reevaluate this “friendship.” If you say you’re going to do something, please do it.